How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results

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How to Raise Successful People should really be titled How to Raise Good People because, throughout the book, that seems like Esther’s main objective. GAZETTE: You said the formula for master parenting is made up of eight parenting roles. What are those roles?

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I read this book in one sitting. I will start by saying that I am not a fan of parenting books in general. I find that they are either written by people who aren't parents or people who tell you there's one right way. Neither of which works for me. I have a teenager who rolls his eyes each time he sees me look at a parenting book and tells me that they are not worth it. In 2017, a team of British researchers studied the differences between "elite" and "ultra elite" athletes. (Of course, all NBA players are elite — but then there's Michael Jordan or LeBron James or Kobe Bryant, whose accomplishments stand out immensely compared to the others.)A childhood in which one feels accepted and nurtured is one of the best predictors of adult success, well-being, and life satisfaction.

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The lesson in all of this: Children will listen to you - they want your approval and love - but if they want to be happy, they're going to have to listen to themselves." On a recent afternoon, the Gazette sat down with Ronald Ferguson, an MIT-trained economist who has been teaching public policy for more than three decades at Harvard Kennedy School (HKS), to talk about the new book he and journalist Tatsha Robertson have written on how parenting styles shape children’s success. Wojciki puts together a framework for child raising which is almost diametrically opposed to the “Tiger Mother” approach. It’s an interesting take (particularly the emphasis on kindness), but the tone is maddening. Wojciki is the mother of three incredibly successful women, and a celebrated educator and speaker in her own right, and boy does she let you know it. There’s a heavy strand of smug self-congratulation which runs all the way through this: “… and who knew that I’d figured out how to do exactly the right thing…” After I gave birth to my first daughter, Susan, the nurse wrapped her in a pink blanket and put a tiny yellow knit hat on her head. Stan, my husband, sat by my side. We were both exhausted but elated, and in that moment, everything was clear: I loved my daughter from the second I saw her, and I felt a primal desire to protect her, to give her the best life possible, to do whatever it took to help her succeed.Despite the progress being brought on society in the wake of digitalization, somehow, trust is taking a hard blow. And you cannot disintegrate trust from healthy relationships, whether in the home or in the outside world. So how does this work? As we become more miserable and less trustworthy, we begin to radiate this perception of life and pass it on to our children. Consequently, the child starts to see the world as one big scary playground, and regardless of the path they choose, they will always have this feeling that someone is out there to get them. The other roles are the “revealer,” which shows children the wonders of the world, so even if they’re living in poverty, they go to museums and the library and places to meet people who the parent wants the child to know. Then there’s the “philosopher,” which may be the second-most important behind the early learning partner, because it helps children find purpose. If 3-year-olds ask deep questions, the philosopher parents don’t just blow it off; they try to answer in a way that adds to the child’s understanding of life. The sixth role is the “model” that the child aspires to emulate. I've interviewed several Nobel Laureates, and almost all of them recalled that, even much later in life, their parents always patiently tried to answer questions they asked. And when the parents did not have immediate answers, they taught their kids how to look for the answers and often searched for them together. FERGUSON: The first is the “early learning partner” role, and it hooks the children on learning and problem-solving before they start school. Most of those young people could read basic words by the time they started kindergarten. A number of them described what we named the “early lead effect,” which happened when their kindergarten or first-grade teacher got excited about the fact that they could read, and they liked the way that felt. And if you have ever watched Dead Poets’ Society, you know that these kinds of stories may end even worse than this.